As I’ve gotten older I find it harder and harder to make friends. Friendships take time, and energy…which I lack with two boys under the age of five and a full-time job. Although on rare occassions it has happened. BAM out of the blue I’ll meet someone and we just “click”.
This is what I hope for with the boys. I want them to find that “bestie” that one true friend they just “click” with.
E is like me. Ready to be anyone’s friend at a moments notice. Looking for pals on the playground, at school, at the doctor’s office…anywhere.
|E hanging with his peeps.|
I once watched as E “clicked” with a little boy during soccer practice and they ran around the field holding hands. A little awkward, but definitely cute.
Sometimes, though there are kids that don’t want to be his friend. And they aren’t so nice about it.
Yesterday at the playground I watched my smiling son walk up to a boy and try to play with him. The boy’s response “Go away, you’re stupid.” WTF – you little sh$%. Mama bear almost went on attack, but I waited and watched. What I saw was wonderful. My guy blew him off…he didn’t get sad or come crying to me. He just shrugged his shoulders and moved on.
|The “Whatever” face.|
So, mama bear can save her worry for something more important (like kindergarten and dating). And I could learn a lesson about friendship from my little man…
When someone decides not to be your friend it’s their loss not yours. Just shrug your shoulders and move on.