Give it a TRI: Guest Post by GoTRIbal Founder Tanya

As a working mom, triathlete and everything in between Multi-Tasking has become second nature. However, there are some lessons to be learned when attempting to take on the world.


My super awesomesauce friend and fearless leader of GoTRIbal is sharing some of her insights and advice about women, multi-tasking and all the stuff in between.



Your mother was right.
Running with scissors isn’t good for anybody – unless you’re a woman.

Tanya from GoTRIbal

If there’s one thing you are probably really good at, it’s multi tasking. And let’s just call a spade a spade here shall we? If you are a woman, there’s a pretty darn good chance you’re good at it.


Test: Are you reading this while replying to work emails,  lacing up your running shoes, planning your friend’s 40th birthday invite list, and arranging your boyfriend’s (husband’s, sister’s, kid’s) next dentist appointment.


All this has caused the world’s advice and research on “work/life balance” to explode.


A friend of mine, Felena Hansen, CEO of a co-working space designed specifically for women, plainly and matter-of-factly says she’s not a fan of this ‘work/life balance’ phrase. “There’s no such thing,” she says.  It’s really just “work-life integration”.


But this post isn’t another deep dive into that topic. It’s more to notice the ease with which we, unconsciously almost, seamlessly accomplish this work-life integration through our multi-tasking activities.


And yes, I might even have a suggestion or two on how to excel at it.


Three Lessons to Excel at Mult-Tasking

1. Being athletes (and a huge number of other roles we all occupy) requires a base level skill in multi-tasking. I stretch my hamstrings while brushing my teeth.  Suffice it to say, my teeth probably don’t get the full treatment, nor do my hammies get the best stretch. But so far, neither have let me down.


Lesson: You have reached Super-woman status when you know & practice the difference between multi-tasking activities that are no-brainers & avoid the ones that have disastrous outcomes (texting while driving).  In other words, which are “just get’er done” and which are “I’m not liiiiiisssteeenninggg”.


2. My work is spent connecting people. Not just any people, but people with others who can help support them in living their healthiest, strongest life forever.  That means, my life is spent where healthy, active, Make-Awesome-Happen type of people are. (FYI: Brook is one of those people) In any 10 minute period, I’m listening, and then thinking “Who would this person love to know? Who would love to know THEM?”


Lesson: This is such tight work-life multi-tasking integration I should call it “Wo-ife”. This kind of multi-tasking is one everyone should aim for. The blurred line of what we’re Naturals at combined with what we can do for a living.


3. “Women are better at being able to stand back and reflect for a moment while they are juggling other things.” I didn’t say it, he did.  This really is magic when it happens. I like to think of it as self-awareness in the moment. Like when you’re talking with your husband (sister, kid, parent) for the 147th time about something, and you immediately think, “Wait, what if I worded this differently? Calling him a turd isn’t working.” Then you put the knife down.


Lesson:  I would argue that true reflection IS a practice not shared while doing other tasks. You just can’t do it WELL. But we can wield this multi-tasking power best in those moments where we catch ourselves in an action that’s not conducive to bettering our relationships, and do a quick presto-change-o so that we are.  

This is all to say, we can’t be masters of our domain all the time.


We try to be. But sometimes we blow it.


If we’re already good at something, we are supposed to work at getting better at it.  So, isn’t it right that we focus on getting better at multitasking multi-tasking?


Tanya from GoTRIbal

Tanya is the Founder of GOTRIbal, a premier active lifestyle network designed to make meaningful connections and bring relevant content to women who want to lead active, healthy lifestyles. She proudly multi-tasks while integrating her work-life every day.

I’m looking for more guest posters for my GiveitaTRI feature. If you are an athlete, wannabe athlete or have a message about body image you’d like to share email me at RedheadReverie{at}gmail{dot}com

Mom Style Files: April Stitch Fix and Challenge {#msfiles}

We interrupt our regularly scheduled Mom Style Files mission post for a Mom Style Files Stitch Fix Special.


Stitch Fix Stylist


Since I posted about Stitch Fix a month ago I’ve received lots of questions about what comes in each magical box.


Keep in mind that you don’t need to keep everything that arrives in your fix. There have been some fixes where I’ve sent back everything, others where I kept everything and still others where I’ve only kept a couple items.


Here’s what I kept and sent back for this month.


April Stitch Fix Mom Style Files



I really liked the concept of this blouse. Wearing it with a pair of skinny jeans, and sandals. However, it was just too flowy. It needed to be one size smaller then it would be ok. The size factor also combined with the fact that the shirt was see-through meant I’d have to wear another tank under it. Which defeated the purpose of wearing a tanktop in the first place.


April Stitch Fix Mom Style Files

Ezra Mindy Ikat Print Key-Hole Sleeveless Blouse

VERDICT – Sent Back


This shirt was the exact same cut as the Mindy and just needed to be one size smaller.

April Stitch Fix Mom Style FilesEzra Evita Print-Back Mixed Material Top

VERDICT – Sent Back


I already have one pair of cropped skinny jeans, but these fit so well I couldn’t resist keeping them.

April Stitch Fix Mom Style Files

Kensie Angie Cropped Skinny Jean

VERDICT – Keeper


I really liked the simplicity of the design on this scarf and the neutral colors make it very versatile. When it comes to accessories I pretty much keep everything Stitch Fix sends unless it’s something I already have or it’s just REALLY not my style {which hasn’t happened very often}.

April Stitch Fix Mom Style Files

41Hawthorn Adrienne Lightweight Dragonfly Print Infinity Scarf

VERDICT – Keeper


Lastly, my favorite piece of my entire fix, and also the most expensive. Rarely does my fix go over $200, however this piece was an exception. My Stitch Fix stylist Samantha saw that I had pinned this dress onto my Style board, and sent it to me.


Yes, they do check your pinboards. So, pin, pin, pin and it will ensure that your fix is just what you want.


The reason I love this dress is first of all it’s comfortable, like PJ comfortable. Second it’s faltering and stylish, and will be perfect for my Florida trip in June. The only negative {listen up short peeps} it’s REALLY long. I’m 5’7” and even with my platforms I was tripping on it a bit. I’ll just have a friend hem it … easy, peasy, but it’s something to keep in mind if you want this dress. Also, it’s by far THE most expensive item I’ve EVER purchased other than a bridesmaid dress. I justified the price with the fact that I had some affiliate credits ready and waiting.


April Stitch Fix Mom Style Files

Tart Jude Nautical Print Maxi Dress

VERDICT – Keeper


Overall, my April Fix was a win-win, and I can’t wait till my next one in May. In the meantime, I’m holding an informal totally not endorsed by Stitch Fix in anyway 30 day Fix Challenge. Each day for the month of April I’m going to wear one item I’ve received via Stitch Fix.

Stitch Fix 30 Day Fix Challenge




First of all because it’s fun, and second because I have a lot of inquires about just how much Stitch Fix can influence your wardrobe.


Many of you have been skeptical. Whether it’s pricing that’s holding you back, remember you get to pick your price point and you keep what you want and can afford, or it’s the styles you will receive. The style issue is a work-in-progress, the more feedback – negative or positive – Stitch Fix receives the better they can tailor your fix. And as you can see pinning your favorites also helps.


Well, I’m off to plan tomorrow’s Stitch Fix outfit.


Do you Stitch Fix?


If you do, share your favorite outfit on Instagram, tag it #msfiles and I’ll feature you on my Facebook and Regram your photo.


If you don’t and are interested in trying out, click here to get started.



The Nitty Gritty: This post contains affiliate links that help support my Stitch Fix habit. Once you sign up, you too can benefit from affiliate credits, and earn money toward your fix habit.

Give it a TRI: Meet Coach Denise

Last year I really wanted to push myself in the world of competitive triathlon. I was tired of just winging it and was looking for more guidance in training and nutrition. It was time to call in the reinforcements, so I hired a coach.


Upon first meeting Denise {aka coach} I was a bit intimidated. Even though she’s 5’4″ and probably weighs 100 pounds, she’s a badass. However, once you sit down and talk with her, you soon realize she’s the most realistic down to earth person you will meet. She’s also a mom, which means she understands what it’s like balance family and racing.



Thanks to her training and patience I was able to beat my time by 15 minutes and had a new PR.


This year I’m more confident in my training {thanks to Denise} and I’m adopting a different attitude on racing and training this year {more on that later}. However, I know some of you may be curious about hiring a coach, and how a little guidance can help.


Introducing Denise Barnhouse {aka Coach}

Coach Denise Barnhouse #GiveitaTRI


Why do you TRI? 

Well actually I don’t anymore, so the real question would be why did I TRI?  I absolutely love the accomplishment of being able to complete three sports in one.  There is nothing like the feeling you have when you complete a triathlon when you are totally exhausted with quads throbbing and being able to reflect back on all the work I put into it.  God gave us the gift of movement and I love that he has blessed me with the ability to use that movement in the three disciplines.  Oh yeah, and I can’t forget about breakfast afterwards!!!!


Now why don’t I TRI anymore?  Well simply put – I’m a competitive athlete and part of the enjoyment for me is to be at that level and now that I am a mom, Tri-Coach, CrossFit Coach and business owner, I put myself aside to work on the success of my athletes and family through sport and faith. There is just not enough time to train as hard or be as competitive as I want to for three sports.


How did you get started in coaching?

I went to Colby-Sawyer College for Exercise Science with a minor in nutrition so basically I have always been a nerd about the body.  I love the science behind what happens to the body from the cellular level out when exercise and diet is put in place.  However, I found myself in an 8 year career in pharmaceutical sales and a full time sprint athlete. This left virtually no time for God and family.


So the natural thing to do was quit my job become a full time athlete and mom, right?


Wrong, God had other plans for me. I got injured and realized that we actually needed my paycheck. So, with lots of prayers and what I went to school for, I decided to use my knowledge to help others succeed at my favorite sport in the world!  My injury also ended up being a blessing in disguise because that’s how I got started in CrossFit.  A triathlete’s brain is typically focused on only the three disciplines, “If I want to be a better triathlete I need to swim, bike, and run more!”  I was included in that equation and got an overused hip injury with a partially torn hip labrum and ischial tuberitis.  If I had a strength component in there it could have been prevented.  CrossFit is the perfect sport for that void.  Not only does CrossFit use function movements to keep me strong for life, but its core to extremity strength which is imperative for any athlete that needs cardiorespiratory endurance, strength, stamina, flexibility, power, speed, balance, coordination, agility, and accuracy. However, again my injury was a blessing to me or I would still probably be selfish. Now I get to teach athletes all these awesome components so they can be their best, and that’s wonderful to witness….I love it!


What is your coaching style? 

Simply put….


“The athlete doesn’t chose the race, the race chooses the athlete!” 


What this means is there are many times in life when people try to fit themselves in a society that doesn’t work for them and then they find themselves failing at those margins because it doesn’t work.  This happens in the sport of triathlons all the time.  People think that if they are going to get into the sport the natural progression is to start with mini sprints and work your way up to the ironman, and if you don’t make it to the ironman distance or at least half ironman then you have failed at that margin.  But truly there is beauty at every distance and my job is to guide you to your success.  If an athlete ends up picking a goal that is virtually unattainable at cost of everything else, then that could result with a bad taste in your mouth for the sport.  Athletes need to take two sheets of paper.  The first sheet should list tri goals including all your dreams and aspirations.  Then the second sheet of paper should be reality and the actual time you have to put into the sport.  Once that is established look at the distances and how much time will be needed to reach that goal. Then do it with all your strength!  The last thing you want is for your training to become a job that you have to do. You want it to be the job you want to do!


Greatest moments as a coach? 

It was my first ironman client, I was nervous.  She only had 15 weeks and had only completed one Olympic distance race so far.  Initially, I told her I could guide her and give her advice for a shorter distance and then Ironman next year.  She respected my answer but called me the following week and wouldn’t take no for an answer.  So I strategically and stressfully put together the best plan I could for her.  She wanted to finish the race before the cut off period and wanted to make the run without walking.  As her training progressed she was doing great so her finish time goal kept decreasing, which was truly making me panic. So 15 weeks later, she was as ready as she could be.  That night they were airing the finishing line live and I was patiently waiting.  I still had not heard from her or saw her cross the finish line…I was sweating!  I opened up another browser page and I could see all her splits.  She did awesome in the swim and the bike and all her transition were perfect.  But where was she?  I figured she either got hurt or walked the run. For a moment I felt like I had failed her.  Within 10 minutes of that thought I got a text that said “I did it!”  She actually crossed the finish line 2.5 hours before her goal and ran the entire run portion of the race.  She was ecstatic, and I basically passed out from the stress!  I was so proud of her. She worked so hard.


What benefits do you see from coaching others? 

My goal is to see my clients see themselves as God perfectly made them.  There is a lot that goes into that, but I do see it.


Any pre-race traditions?

This is funny!  My only pre-race tradition is crying.  LOL!  I don’t know why I do it, but I do.  Every. Single. Time.


What’s your favorite sport in a Tri? 

Hands down the bike!


My races for 2014?

No triathlons, but one of my clients got me into Cyclocross this fall, which is basically CrossFit and cycling. I can do that!  I’m hooked.  So my race calendar for 2014 will consist of as many Cyclocross races as possible starting in September!

Coach Denise Barnhouse #GiveitaTRI


Have you ever DNF’ed?

Ummm, no but I have done two stupid things in a race.  The first one was when I was racing the Triamerica Series in Orlando. Long story short I was first on the bike and still being an amateur athlete I was sure I was going to see the person in front of me turn around. Well, I just so happened to look down at my odometer and then looked behind me only to see athletes in the far distance turning around. Yeah, so I biked the Olympic distance on the bike because there was no way in my mind that I would be first.

The second one was my last race in Wisconsin and I was crossing the finish line with some serious heat on my back.  I knew I was in placing position for my age group, however I was also injured at this time so was in some serious pain.  As I was crossing the finish line, I didn’t notice that there were two pads to cross. I stopped about three feet before the second pad and lost my third place spot. I cried before and after that race.


Who is your greatest inspiration?

My Savior is the only one who inspires me!


What to look for in a Coach?

Look for someone that doesn’t give you a cookie cutter program. Look for someone that is interested in you, and cares about your success.  Not everyone fits in the same program, that’s why we are all made different.  If we were all created the same then life would be boring, and there would only be one diet and nutrition book written.  This is what separates good coaches from great ones!


Introduction of the sport for kids?

LET THEM HAVE FUN!  Let them decide if they want to be competitive. If you’re a parent you know what that looks like.  Right now let them play.


Kids Triathlon / Coach Denise #GiveitaTRI


If you would like to hire Denise to take you to the next level of racing, you can find her at TriFitAgape or email her at Shakedown77 {at} hotmail {dot} com

Hiring a coach was one of the best moves I made in my triathlon journey. Hopefully it will help you too.

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